In a study we ran, for example, people wanted to feel high-intensity positive emotions like excitement when they were in a role that involved leading or trying to influence another person. When Jeanne and I ran a study to figure out why Americans value high-intensity positive emotions, we found that Americans believe they need high-intensity emotions to succeed - especially to lead or influence. East Asian cultures, on the other hand, value low-intensity positive emotions like serenity and peacefulness. In other words, Americans equate happiness with high intensity. Research by Jeanne Tsai of Stanford University, with whom I conducted several studies, shows that when you ask Americans how they would ideally like to feel, they are more likely to cite high-intensity positive emotions like elated and euphoric than low-intensity positive emotions like relaxed or content. ![]() And research shows that we - especially Westerners, and Americans in particular - thrive on high-intensity positive emotions. It often indicates a user profile.īut high-intensity positive emotions can also be taxing. More on that later.Account icon An icon in the shape of a person's head and shoulders. Unless your name is Matt Damon and you're trying to escape the confines of an FBI operative program that has you listed under 'people to shoot on sight,' DON'T tell me I look tired. Lesson learned for all readers, male, female, shims: telling people they look tired, weathered, etc., is another way of telling them they look like shit. I bet you kick puppies for fun, too, don't you. Jim would appreciate it if you called her weathered after a long day of doing work for YOUR boss and catering to YOUR schedule. Really? Really, Jim? Weathered?! I'm sure Mrs. further awkward conversation ensues about his wife and the turmoil with her business trip. Now, to accommodate the client, this had to be done under a time crunch. I'm not complaining, either I love getting out into the fresh air when possible cube life is excruciating if sitting. This particular afternoon, I had to find the effort to produce and drop off a binder at a building half a mile away, which entailed hoofing it down the street in heels (I'm a lady.) and climbing two flights of stairs (rinse and repeat for the trip back). Regardless of how tired / busy I am, when it comes to clients, I will always put on a 'happy face' and act my most professional-self until I can slouch back down at my desk and stare at the SE (south-east) DC construction out my enormous cube window (not bragging, just a fact). ![]() Nevertheless, there will always be people that are more tired, more stressed, more mentally exhausted than the likes of me, I assure you. It is in this circumstance, and no other, that I will let the 'You look tired,' statement slide.Īs a government contractor, there are moments of high stress / panic in my day-to-day.and there are also moments of extreme boredom. This particular quote is said to Joan Allen's character as Jason Bourne chats with her on the phone, looking on secretively from another building. Suspense, action, little bit of romance / love, and of course, Matt Damon. Yes, that is a quote from the Bourne Ultimatum, the final installment of the best modern trilogy known to man (dramatic, I know).
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